In many families in California, there are two kinds of "kids": the two-legged kind and the four-legged kind.
Technically, people should not need an incentive to make their alimony payments and to make them on time. They're legally obligated to do so by the court order. That's all the incentive they need.
Some couples have a very hard time talking about getting a prenuptial agreement. They find it stressful and awkward. Maybe you do not even know how to get the conversation started.
If you're interested in modifying the child custody arrangement that you have with your ex, the key is to focus on your child's best interests when you ask for the change.
Your spouse asks you for a divorce. Later that day, while you're at home waiting for the kids to get back from school and your spouse is at work, you start wondering how you should approach this. Do you just tell the kids about the divorce by yourself as soon as they get home, or should you wait for your spouse?
For many people, divorce happens slowly, a process that takes time. The relationship slowly erodes until the couple realizes it is just not working anymore.